Noticing versus judgement
One thing on my journey I’ve dealt with. Is judgements. Of myself and others. I found it illogical to say never judge anything. So…
I adopted noticing. HUH? Judgements pass a sentence. Noticing does not.
I feel bad for wanting her. I am bad for raising my voice at him.
I feel I want her. I raised my voice at him.
Noticing leaves out the conclusion.
Noticing stay in the now.
Like this I see “x” happening.
I see a lady I like.
I see I want to raise my voice.
Now combine noticing with becoming curious about me.
By asking Why.
I see a lady I like. Why? What is it about me? What is it about her? These answers promote awareness.
I see I want to raise my voice. Why? What is it about me? What is it about them? These answers promote awareness.
Making conscious what was once unconscious removes the control it once had.
Making conscious what was once unconscious shifts the equation of stimulus and response.
If I realize I want her because of the external packaging but know nothing of the internal packaging. My desire is lessened sometimes completely removed.
If I’m raising my voice because I do not feel heard. I can stop and say,… I do not feel you heard me. Or even better, Can you please repeat back to me what I said so I feel heard?
Noticing leaves a pause between collecting data and adding a conclusion. That pause is Why. That pause is getting curious. The pause can be used to collect more data, to make more discoveries, to see if my data (my noticing) is correct.
I have no idea if this concept will east your journey. I find I’m dealing with it again as I’m making some judgements. So writing it out like this is good for me.