RELATIONSHIP ALIGNMENT

I post this for myself as a reminder of what I’ve learned what does not work for me. SO as forget or get caught up in other pieces of life, I’ve found I need to have a tangible memory I can refer back to.

As my dating & friends journey has progressed I’ve changed my criteria to looking for alignment.

In simple terms that means, is my and their values/actions in life are close enough to create natural alignment. Where we are going similar directions. Not in everything but in the core things I need met.

So identifying my core needs I must have alignment on came next.

Top 2 deal breakers no exceptions)

-Finances (since they are one of the biggest relationship busters)

-Freewill orientation (this is unique to me, my personality resistance to being told what to do.)

Next 3 are one I have left freindship/relationships before because they became deal breakers. They directly effect the quality of the relationship.

-Conflict resolution style

-Positive mental state

-Personal responsibility shouldering

-self aware

4 potential issues, I can live without but could potentially effect the relationship.

-Avoiding extremes

-Curious personality/intellect

‘-Common sense (practical nature)

-Kindness

These are my list of the biggest alignment isseus I must consider when looking at friendship/relationship.

The bigger the dis-alignment the less close I can be to/with them.